Life is not Fair
Have you ever wondered “why me?” You’re not alone. If you really think about it, why not you? The fact of the matter is that life is not fair. If it were truly fair, we would all be the same. We might all be professional sports players, the best in our sport. Of course, then it would be hard to determine who the best is, wouldn’t it? Someone has to be the best, and someone has to be the worst. And then there is everyone else in between.
So that brings us to alcohol. Why is it that we ended up having a problem? Again, if you think about it differently, you might as well ask why shouldn’t it have been us? I don’t know your individual circumstance, but I know mine. I know that I started drinking when I was a teenager, and I drank heavily for many years. I was born with a personality that never wants the good times to end. I hate it when a vacation is over. I hate it when a good movie ends and I want to immediately start the next one. I hate it when they say ‘last call.’ Sure that is probably true for everyone, but I know in my case that I really struggled with that. So I kept the party going.
Eventually, that logic led me to some troubling times. I’ll get into more on that later. But for now, just know that things got pretty bad. Had I shown a little more restraint when it was time to stop, maybe I wouldn’t have gotten bad. Had I exercised a little more self control, perhaps I would still be able to drink. Maybe. Or maybe not. But truth is, it doesn’t matter. Here I am. I had a problem with alcohol, and I had to stop. Okay, so that’s the breaks in life. Why me? How about “What am I going to do about it?”
Again, I emphasize that life is not fair. We are all built differently. We are all dealt different cards, so to speak. What matters is what we do with those cards. So instead of worrying so much about how you were unfairly given a challenging situation, maybe rise to the challenge and see what you can do with it. Maybe stand up and face the reality. This is your life. This is what you’ve got. And you won’t have it forever. Time is ticking, so better to make the most of it and make the best of what you have left.
